One of my blog sibling's recent relationship woes started me thinking about the means of communication we use to tell members of the opposite sex (or same sex, for that matter) we are interested. My experience, and that of other men I know, is that most women are far too subtle for the average man. I will provide an example, relayed to me by a close friend.
A girl he new was complaining that a guy she had met at a bar had not responded to her obvious signal that she was interested. When my friend asked her to show him what she had done, she stood up, walked about four paces, looked back, then kept on walking. From this small action, she expected this poor fella to understand that what he was supposed to do was follow her.
So my advice to you ladies is: If you are interested, say something. Speak plainly and directly. Any other approach leaves too much room for doubt on both sides.
I know you probably fear the rejection, but so do we. Be honest, but gentle.
As a side thought, the ones who do read the signals are probably the ones you want to avoid, anyway.
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