Blog Dating

I have been reading a number of different blogs over the past few months. And the number of regularly read blogs is increasing at an alarming rate. I have made a few discoveries in the course of this process.

1: I seem to have way too much free time on my hands.

2: Almost everyone out there is a way better writer than I am. Or their lives are at least more interesting.

3: A disturbing number of people are single when they don't really want to be, despite being (at least as well as I can tell from their writing) funny, intelligent, and articulate.

So what the f*%k is going on? I firmly believe you are better off alone than being with the wrong person, but come on. Is there really no one out there for all of these witty, bright, well spoken people?

It reminds me of an episode of Seinfeld.

Jerry: "95 percent of the population are undate-able."

Elaine: "But what about.."

Jerry: (cutting her off) "Undate-able!"

Elaine: "Then how are all of these people gettig together?"

Jerry: "Alcohol."

I have to believe that is not true. So how do we find someone compatable? Someone with whom we can live, or better yet, not live without.* I feel like we need a blog Golda, reading through everyones blogs, and matching us up with that special someone. i have met and gotten to know some very cool people through this blogging thing, and have even had a small crush or two, but finding a life mate?**

But maybe getting to know someone through their blog is as problematic as getting to know them through work, or some other activity, and then trying to date them. I mean, does dating even exist anymore. In my parents generation, the sexes were far more segregated. There were getleman's clubs (before that became a euphamism for a place women danced naked on a pole) woman's colleges. Professions were generally either for a female or for a male. So the dating process was one of getting to know the other person, because they had very little interaction otherwise.

Nowadays, with genders far more mixed in the workplace (and yes, I understand there is still inequality there, so please put your feminist flame throwers away), at the collegiate level, and with more unsupervised interaction in general, the getting to know you process seems less relevant to dating.

So what does dating mean now? It would appear it is a lot about whether you want to engage in sex with the other person. And maybe if you want to wake up to them in the morning.

But does dating have to be a series of spouse auditions? Can't we just go out and enjoy each other's company? Of course, since most of my friends are women, I do that all the time anyway, and they are most certainly not dates.

Is dating defined by the possibility of a tommorrow morning?

I think we get back to the idea that we each want different things at different times, and so the thing that satisfies us at one time disappoints at another.

I know it is a huge cliche, but I hate that all I get from seeking answers is more questions.

*I don't mean this in the needy, clingy way it sounds. But in that good, "this is the person who knows everything about me and loves me anyway" sort of way.

**It is sometimes hard to find a conversation with a fellow blogger, since you are so informed of the other person's life before meeting. I have made a friend that I have difficulty speaking to because I feel like I already know her very well. It's weird. Trying to get past that because she's really cool. So, LS, don't take it persnally I never have anything to say. I am just an idiot.