I started blogging because I was spending way too much time by myself, and consequently, waaaay too much time in my own head. I was making myself nuts and decided I needed to share the wealth.
I have been in California for a week now, and spent a great deal of time since the weekend on my own. Thus, lots of thinking. I haven't posted in a few days because my thoughts at the moment have been racing too far ahead of my ability to type. But I have decided it is time to get back out of my head.
Stuff I have been thinking about:
I read Nick Hornby's High Fidelity the other day. In the book, Rob, the main character, states that it is not possible to contemplate ending a relationship unless there is the possibility of someone else. I am not sure that is entirely off base. Although I have never left someone for someone else, I have never ended a relationship where there wasn't at least the possibility of pursuing someone else. But I suppose there is always that possiblity. What prevents the possibility of dating someone else is the person you are currently dating.*
So what do you think, gentle readers? Have you ever ended it with someone without the possibility of something else?
I am especially curious to see whether women's experiences with this are different than men's.
Other things I have been thinking about.
The best parts of being single are also the worst parts of being single. It just depends on your outlook and where you are in your life at the time. The same is true for being in a relationship.
I think I may be ready to end my dating boycott (being agressively single, as I call it). Of course, I will be spending about half of the next three months out of town.
I- Tunes Rocks. I am now lusting after an I- Pod.
I need a plan for Thanksgiving that does not involve my immediate family.
The show I am doing here is a really good script. I am hoping it will have a lfie after this run.
The show is also essentially done from my end. I am ready to be back home.
I have been less than dilligent about reading blogs this past week or so. Sorry to all my blog siblings. Sometimes you just need to be on your own for a bit.
*I don't mean this nearly as crappy as it sounds.
4 comments:
It's been a long time since the dating pool for me, and I have been told indirectly that I am a horrible advice-giver. So here goes. Yes, it is possible to end a relationship without the next person in the wings. This I have done (yars ago, seroiusly) with the full realization that current person was never going to work out ever. Still, better to just end it now and regain the possibility. As you mention. "The possibility" is the important thing there...
Yes, if you realize the person/situation is bad for you, you're more able to end things without someone new to go straight to.
You can have Thanksgiving with me! I think the crackhouse floor will have been refinished by then even!
:)
Biker Chick
isn't there always the possiblity of someone else? even if there is not an immediate person in mind....and to support this random comment in true girl fashion,i will now reference a silly romantic comedy "you've got mail"...when meg ryan's character leaves her long term boyfriend for the "idea of someone else"
I can't offer you any insight on your question, but I do like your choice of reading material. Have you read any more of his novels?
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